Those who have no strong religious convictions or a connection to an ethnic or cultural heritage of their own are sometimes tempted to adopt symbols or traditions from another culture. While you might feel you are honoring the culture in question by using its tradition, the true holders of these customs and practices often consider such “borrowing” a form of cultural piracy. They feel it is disrespectful to usurp what is freighted with meaning, possibly part of their secret rites, sacred, ancient, and an important aspect of their own identity. Furthermore, it rarely ever works. Outside of its own context, it loses authenticity and comes off as contrived.
Sacred Threshold: Rituals and Readings for a Wedding with Spirit, Gertrud Mueller Nelson and Christopher Witt